When you’re a parent, it’s important to replace your selfishness with selflessness. It’s not about you anymore. The difference between a good dad and a great dad is your ability to sacrifice.
Seems like common sense to most of us, but I’m sure we all know someone who didn’t get the message. When you have children, your life goes on hold. The party scene is over, and it’s important to redefine and reevaluate what’s most important. That’s not to say life can’t be fulfilling, enjoyable and fantastic, but you still have to consider your children in almost every decision you make.
Now, don’t get the wrong idea of when I say your life goes on hold. I don’t mean that you should stop trying to better yourself, or succeed in your goals, hopes, or dreams and stay stagnant. What I’m saying is that when you become a parent, it’s important to wipe “selfish” from your vocabulary. You have to consider from that point on how every decision you make will effect or influence your child. Sacrifices are made that put you second, third, or even further down the line. Your child’s eyes are extremely watchful, and they process your every move at an impressive rate. What they see starts to form their thoughts and feelings from early on.
I feel proud when I hear stories from other parents how they overcame their demons, changed their life in a positive way, gave up bad habits, or used their children as a motivation to improve over all. I love seeing these success stories of folks whose children made them want to improve in a way they never thought possible.