Sergio Chavez. This is one of those hard introductions to write. What can I say? Longtime supporter of the site and all around rad dad, Sergio knows how to bring the mosh with the band “The Eulogy.” He can change a diaper or two, and then still have enough left in him to hammer out some bench presses at the gym all the while working hard as a Journeyman Stagehand. As if that weren’t enough, you can tell his passion for family they way he lights up in pictures around his lovely wife and two wild and awesome boys. Truly a fine example of a Modern Day Dad, Sergio is a hard working guy, a hilarious guy, a dedicated family man, and it’s an honor to feature him on the site.
1. Tell us about what you do, who you are, and how you balance your career with being a dad?
My name is Sergio Chavez from Wildomar, CA / Inland Empire. I am 33 years old, I’ve been married to my wife, Loni, for 7 years this past June, and we have two boys, Dezmond and Julian – ages 5 and 2. I am a journeyman stagehand in I.A.T.S.E. Local 122 in San Diego, CA. I have been a member of my local since 2008. I also do vocals for a hardcore band called The Eulogy whenever we have time haha. A couple of the guys in the band have kids and/or are married so as my bass player Kevin says ‘it’s like herding kittens’ trying to get us in the same room once a week. I commute an hour south for work and an hour north for practice. My schedule is pretty stacked!
I don’t have the normal Monday through Friday, 9 to 5 gig. My job is scheduled on a call in basis, so it’s kind of hard for me and my family to plan the normal family outings. It’s feast or famine with my job, so when the getting’s good, I gotta get it. I’ve been in the industry since 2002 and my wife and I started dating in 2005. She’s been around me long enough to be understanding of my schedule and put up with the weird hours. I travel a few times a year with my job, so we are always doing Facetime once I get off work so I can see the boys, show them where I’m staying, etc. I’ll call them on my way home from work when I’m stuck in traffic just to stay a little more connected with them. We lose so much in our day to day shuffle, that my time with them has to be well spent. Every second counts.
When I’m home, it’s all about the boys. Loni and I try to make time to hang out with each other without the kids when we can. Our parents help us out with daycare and probably remember what it was like being young parents and still wanting to enjoy each others company. It’s very important to me to use my time wisely. Always make time for your family.
2. What does being a modern-day dad mean to you?
Being a modern day dad to me means keeping up with everything going on in the world and your kids world. The world isn’t just what’s happening in our living rooms or on our tvs or screens of our phones. We become boxed in with these things and we become ignorant to real life. The real day to day of everything. And soon enough our children start asking questions. You gotta be prepared for this, even if the answers to the questions are hard to explain haha. But that’s part of our responsibility as parents. You gotta be there every step of the way and be aware of your children’s world and what’s happening outside your door.
3.How did becoming a father change your life?
My life is still being changed by becoming a Dad! Everyday! It seems like as Dez learns to write his name or Julian learns his ABC’s, I’m changing and learning as a Father and a Husband. At first it was the little, obvious things that changed. Of course I can’t go to Hardcore shows every night. I’m not going out to the bar or hanging out with the guys all the time. You gotta be home. Plus, when you’re out late, who’s to say that little diaper filler is gonna let you sleep in haha!! It’s not about what you want. You lose that when you create that life. Also, you have to be conscious of your significant other and their wants and needs. It’s not just you anymore and you gotta step up to the plate. No room for selfishness. Get right or get left, man. Once you have those kids, they come first, then your relationship, then you.
4. Whats the greatest part about being a dad?
There are SO many things that are great about being a Dad. I couldn’t pinpoint the greatest. Maybe seeing the things that you take for granted that lose their luster that your kids think are the most fantastic things. Having boys, I also like being reacquainted with the things I liked as a kid or being interested in the things I like – like Transformers, GI Joe, WWE (we take our pro wrasslin’ very seriously), Legos, and Ninja Turtles. I like to see them get excited about those things or making opinions on their own interests. I like to see what makes them tick. I guess at the end of the day, the greatest thing about being a Dad is being their Dad. They’re great kids and I love my sons with every ounce of my being.
5. Can you share a funny story about being a father?
From the second they wake up, it’s non stop. There are too many instances of where I ask myself ‘Did they just say/do that?’. Most recently, Julian has been calling an umbrella a ‘rainbrella’. Or Dezmond having a crush on a little girl at school. He’s on the early schedule and she’s on the later one. They are referred to as Early Birds and Late Birds. He calls his crush ‘Pretty Bird’. Also, he wants to be in a band. He told my wife the other day that he’s the ‘only Hardcore kid at his school’. Haha. He also had Loni cut the sleeves off of one of his shirts so he can make band merch for his imaginary band called ‘Deadman’. He made a logo and everything.
6. What advice can you give any new father out there?
BE PATIENT!!!!!!!!! Don’t be too serious and have fun!
Thanks so much Sergio, you are the man and The Eulogy has fueled me through many workouts! Keep up the great work!
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