I feel lucky to be able to feature so many amazing fathers. Matt is a guy whom I have followed for quite some time and noted on many occasions what a dedicated father he is despite having such a busy life. As a fellow martial artist, I really was impressed by his dedication to such a unique martial art like Sayoc Kali, but sometimes these features are all about real recognizing real. Matt is a good dude and you can just tell. A dedicated father and husband, a positive guy and a hardcore kid, just like us.
1. Tell us about what you do, who you are, and how you balance your
career with being a dad?
First off, I’m honored to be a part of this feature with some of my BnB
Brothers and musicians I’ve followed since I was a teenager. I have a
wonderful wife Jessica and two amazing kids – Erin, 10 and Zachary, 3 – and
Boomer, a seven year old Alapaha Blue Blood Bulldog. I’ve been involved in
with punk rock/hardcore music for over 20 years and I’m a Certified Public
Accountant that audits local governments for New York State. Besides my
family, my passions are music and martial arts which I have studied for over
10 years. I’m currently in the Sayoc Kali Instructor Program and the
lessons I learn from my Instructors make me a better person, husband and
dad. Working for NYS helps balance my professional and family life – we
work 75 hours every two weeks and I work a compressed schedule so I have
every other Monday off to take the kids to school or play during the summer.
2. What does being a modern-day dad mean to you?
Being a modern-day dad means a lot to me. Sadly I think our society has
devalued a solid family life. Both parents need to work and the time spent
with the family might get neglected. I’m lucky where I can support my
family so Jess can stay home and my work schedule is structured so I am
always home to spend time with Zach playing or taking Erin to her Tae Kwon
Do class. I’m trying to set an example for my kids to follow and install
the values and skills they need when they grow up.
3. How did becoming a father change your life?
One word – responsibility. Jess had Erin from a previous relationship and I
have been her dad since she was 18 months old. Within a year, we had bought
a house and moved in. Now I had another life to be responsible for. Any
decisions I made or will make must take into account the effect it will have
on their lives.
The second would be happiness. When I come home from work Zach and Boomer
both great me and fight to be the first one to see me. For being a big dog,
Boomer is very gentile with Zach and I think it’s cute. It makes me feel
good when I walk in the door. Erin did the same thing when she was young
4. What’s the greatest part about being a dad?
Legacy. I can pass knowledge to the kids to improve their lives. It’s also
fun, in the last week we went sleigh riding. Who doesn’t love playing in
5. Can you share a funny story about being a father?
I brought Jess and Erin to one of the office’s picnics. The bathroom was a
decent walk from the picnic area and when I got back Erin had to inform all
of my co-workers that I was gone a long time and daddy went doody. Thanks
6. What advice can you give any new father out there?
Be involved in your kids’ life. Every kid needs a father and a mother and
being a dad is an important responsibility. Keep a playful mind and play
with your kids. Roll around in the snow or dirt, play with their toys and
just be there for them. My kids just want to do something with daddy and I
try to involve them in as much as I can. Also play a role in educating your
kids. Read to them; help them with their homework, etc. You are your kids’
Thanks so much man. It’s and honor and a pleasure both to have you on these pages.
Get in touch with Matt here:
Personal Instagram – cannibalmattdms
and check out these pages as well.
Sayoc Kali – www.sayoc.com
Albany Sayoc Instagram – Albany_Sayoc_Kali
Albany Sayoc FaceBook – Albany Sayoc Tribe
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