-My name is Jeremy Wray and I am a skateboarder/artist/designer/father. Skateboarding has been my day job since I was 18 years old. Here I am 20 years later, still skateboarding for a living. My wife, Carissa and I had our son Jaxon back in 2011 and just recently were blessed with a baby girl we named Jayden. I’ve put family first ever since our son was born. Although it might not be the best thing for my “career” it has definitely been the best thing for my life.
-I’m sure every generation thinks that they are rewriting the rules on parenthood, but I’m sure it hasn’t changed as much as most people think. I just do my best to be there for my little ones and my wife. I get to be around more than most dads, due to my occupation and having a very flexible work schedule. It has definitely made all the difference.
-If you hadn’t learned it already from being in a relationship or marriage, being a father forces you to become selfless in a lot of ways. You find that by putting the needs of others before your own can be very rewarding in ways you couldn’t have foreseen. Now I can’t imagine my life without these little guys. It put a new perspective on everything I might have thought my life would be like and I saw my priorities shift exponentially. I realized that I no longer need “stuff” for myself. It has all become about providing for my family and stepping into the roll of being a father the best I can.
-Right now my little ones are 2 and 2 weeks, so I’m still getting to enjoy them at their cutest. Learning things for the first time and trying new things. New foods, new places, new experiences, and just tons of firsts. This is the time in their lives when the fun stuff happens and all of the funny stories we will be telling them for the rest of our lives actually go down. That’s got to be the greatest part.
-I have a diaper change disaster story that even while it was happening I was thinking that if this was a scene in a movie I would be going “yeah right…” I had learned from the very first diaper I ever changed that getting poop on you was a very real and alarmingly frequent possibility, but this one takes the cake. I was changing my son Jaxon and was pleasantly surprised to find a solid log in there, thinking to myself this should be a lot easier than all those messy, squishy poops I’m used to dealing with. He had a tendency at this point to reach down and grab his diaper from the sides, mid diaper change. Usually you can just move his hands out of the way and carry on with the cleaning, but not this time. He got a good grip on the diaper and yanked it out from under himself while I had both of his feet in one hand and a dirty wipe in the other. When he lifted it up, the diaper it unfolded and out rolled that nicely formed little log. I stood him up so I could figure out how to deal with the situation and he immediately reached for the poop with his free hand. With less than a fraction of a second to make a decision, I instinctively tried to beat him to the poop and grabbed it before he could with my bare hand. Now I’m holding him up on the changing table with my right hand, there’s a dirty diaper in his hand, used wipes at his feet, and a fresh log of his in my left hand. I can’t see any easy way out of this one. Right then my wife walks in and all I could say was help! We still laugh about that one.
-Just be there as much as you can. Hearing stories of all the firsts your little ones had that day are great but being there to see them happen first hand is something you’ll never forget. Enjoy all of it, because before you know it they’ll probably hate you either way, or so I’ve heard.
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