Sometimes life can really come full circle. I remember looking up to Jason Adams as a kid, watching him rip through concrete on a skateboard with a style and skill that is unmatchable in countless skateboard videos. If I could explain how long it took me to finally learn a good “slappy”, you’d be surprised I didn’t spend that time becoming a doctor instead. Later in life as an artist, I admired Jason’s avant-garde artwork as someone that could break the rules and redefine them for himself. A truly hands-on artist, Jason creates works of art that can resonate with anyone who is an outcast, outsider, or just appreciative of fine art that speaks for itself. Now as a father, I’ve had the opportunity to speak with Jason about being a “Modern Day Dad”. Needless to say I can now also admire his outlook on life as a committed husband and father, and his ability to stay true to himself, his ideals and his family.
1. Tell us about what you do, who you are, and how you balance your
career with being a dad?
Well, My name is Jason Adams, I’m 40 years old and I am a married father of Two daughters. Career wise?? Well, I turned pro for skateboarding not too long out of high school, in 1992. That kept me busy and I did pretty well for quit a while till the economy hit about 4-5 years ago. Things have slowed down quit a bit since. Around the same time I really got into doing art so I’m like a part time pro skateboarder/professional artist/part time stay at home dad. AKA suburban hustler! ha ha! I have experienced success so right now I feel like its more of a ‘trying to build a career’ rather than executing one. As far as juggling goes! Honestly I’m a horrible juggler. One or two or 10 things are always being neglected. I kinda have to circle through it all. focusing on one or two things at a time. Honestly there are times I am completely gridlocked and feel like I am getting nothing done! That’s what I am really starting to try and work on! Consistently working on all things as evenly and as best I can. Its hard for me! I tend to be obsessive and want to hyper focus on one thing!
2. What does being a modern-day dad mean to you?
I don’t know about the “MODERN” part of that question. Hey its 2014 and I’m a dad, that’s all I know. I just try to do the best with what I got. Its me feeling guilty 24/7 because for some reason I feel I should do better even though every one tells me I’m a great dad. I don’t try and shape or control my children at all. I feel that being a parent is just helping and loving them along the way. Try and make them feel confident and loved. I want them to feel like I am there for them whenever they need me and that’s for life. Now on the flip side I feel I lack in teaching them the tools to succeed in ‘the normal sector of the working world’, I never went to college or held a real so called ‘adult job’ . So that’s something that weighs on my mind. Its tough to teach some one how to win at a game I have always chose not to play.
3.How did becoming a father change your life?
When I found out I was going to become a Dad It was exciting and terrifying at the same time! It snapped me into shape! I had always lived off skateboarding since I was out of high school, so I lived in this other world with no real job or schedules or really any responsibility for the most part! Put it this way, There were a lot of good times and late nights. I didn’t have a care in the world! Becoming a dad brought me down to earth. I remember putting Hailee in the car seat in my truck for the first time coming home from the hospital. I instantly realized How dangerous life could be……at any moment of any given day! That moment was heavy! Not too long after that, maybe only a week or two after she was born. After the new born craziness died down. I realized that I’m on call 24-7 for the rest of my life. It wasn’t a depressing thing at all or any negative feeling like that, but that moment was heavy too. It changed a part of me for sure. I think I have been tired ever since! I also never really thought about death or dying before becoming a father. I had traveled all over the world, tons of flights,never even thought nor cared. No anxiety whats so ever. I’ve had travel anxiety (among all kinds of others) ever since. I also get the feeling when ever I leave that I’m doing something wrong. I think its instinctual as a parent to get feeling that you are not suppose to leave your family.
4. Whats the greatest part about being a dad?
Seeing them excited. watching them smile. experiencing unconditional love! Picking my youngest daughter (Luxe) up from school. Watching The TV show ‘America unearthed’ or ‘ Ancient Aliens with my 13 year old (Hailee). Taking Hailee to buy her comics. Listening to Luxe play teacher with her stuffed animals all by herself. I could go on and on. Its all the little things I enjoy the most!
5. Can you share a funny story about being a father?
The fact that I’m a father, I still find that funny. I’m still feel like an irresponsible little kid for the most part! I feel like a big brother a lot of the time!
6. What advice can you give any new father out there?
All the cliché s are true! Time flies! Savor and take advantage of the of the time! I’m all ready looking back and wishing I had time back! Question what success means? I think thats the biggest challenge as a parent in this insane paced-keep up with the Jones’s mentality most people are stuck in. I feel the majority of Americans priorities are pretty far off! Now, I’m not claiming to have this parent thing down!I feel pretty clueless a good deal of the time! (laughs) for the most part try and enjoy as much as you can!
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More about Jason’s Artwork here: http://www.jasonadamslh.com
Buy Jason’s Pro Model Skateboard here: Jason Adams, The Kid