I wasn’t sure what to expect when I reached out to Gabey Schiavone. As part of some pretty notorious punk bands (U.S. Bombs, The Duane Peters Gunfight, The Spent Idols, and New American Mob to name a few) , I had no idea what type of guy I was going to connect with but I knew I would be in for a surprise.
Well surprised I was, and in a good way. I quickly learned that the only thing Gabey is more dedicated to than music, is being a Dad. What I found in Gabey was a really thoughtful, caring and dedicated father who stepped up when he needed to, and took the role of father as his most important performance of all.
1. Tell us about what you do, who you are, and how you balance your career with being a dad?
My name is Gabey Schiavone. I am a father a musician and a truck driver.. in that order!
I never let one override the other. I have 3 kids, my son the oldest. He is 21 and off doing his thing…that’s all I’m going to say about that. (hahaha) He’s a good kid he has a good head on his shoulders.
My middle child she is in Delaware with her mother and theater is her thing. She does extremely well in school and is well on her way way to the Broadway lights.
Then there’s my youngest, Presley. She is with me 5 days a week and with her mother two days a week. She is 15 years old and it is the greatest daughter this father could ask for.
I work 5 days a week. I am usually home by 5 o’clock every evening,I make dinner and we sit down at the table and eat. This is where we talk about our day and stay connected and aware…how’s everything going on in each other’s lives. I am 54 years old, my oldest is 21, but my youngest is who taught me how to be a father.
I never had full custody of any of my children until two years ago when her mother started going through some life issues and because somebody once told me to always be available because I was, I was able to step up.
Let me tell you that being willing and being available and even love does not qualify anybody to be a parent. But it was all I had to work with.
2. What does being a modern-day dad mean to you?
I guess I’m lucky that I’m way more like a kid then the other parents in my neighborhood. I live in Utah and this is a Mormon state, I have nothing against the LDS Church or any other church for that matter. I believe in God but my relationship with God is personal, nevertheless I look very different then the other parents in the neighborhood. They all drive SUVs and minivans, I ride a Harley and I’m covered in tattoos but as a modern-day dad I know what’s going on in my child’s life she tells me everything and there is no screaming and yelling coming out of my house…. my kid talks to me and we communicate because she’s not scared of me. I don’t play The Authority game yet I get all the respect that a parent should from your child. I think that kinda answered that question. (hahaha)
3.How did becoming a father change your life?
This is a really hard question and answer because when I became a father I was terrified and then I wasn’t at first I just imitated the way my mother was with me things went fine. And then one morning I remember looking at her and thinking while there are actually three little people in this world that I care about more than I care about myself. Believe me that was a 180 change from who I was before I had them.
4. Whats the greatest part about being a dad?
Seeing the good things about you shine in them.
5. Can you share a funny story about being a father?
The fact that a knucklehead like me can be a dad and actually succeed at it is the funniest story I’ve ever heard.
6. What advice can you give any new father out there?
If I can just add this and say to any new dads out there….. what I mean by new dad is one day you’re always hanging out at the skatepark going to punk rock shows at night barely hanging on to the job you have and then one day the chick that you’ve been sleeping with tells you she’s pregnant….. relax life is not over. Yes you’re going to be put to the test, yes you’re going to have to find the best job you can get and work your ass off and make a name for yourself and hopefully climb the ladder, but every time at night when you look into that child’s eyes you’ll know why you’re doing it and it won’t be as hard and then you’ll realize one day that you enjoy everything you do cuz you know why you’re doing it.
I still get to do all the fun stuff that I did before now I got somebody fun to do it with.
Thank you so much Gabey. It was an absolute pleasure to get to know you and this feature completely surpassed my expectations. I’m honored to have you amongst the ranks of these pages and wish you continued success in all you do, as a fan and now as a friend.