If you haven’t heard of Demarcus James you haven’t been paying attention. His name has been popping up a lot lately and it doesn’t look like he is going to slow down any time soon. All terrain ripper for Assault Skateboards, Demarcus recently welcomed his first daughter into the world. We were able to chat with him a little bit about how he balances a rising skateboarding career with family life and we know you will dig Demarcus on and off board as much as we do.
1. Tell us about what you do, who you are, and how you balance your career with being a dad?
I am a professional skateboarder from San Francisco ca, and have been skateboarding for 13 years. I skate for Assault Skateboards, Ace Trucks, Bones Wheels, Knowgood Hardwear, Skateworks Skateshop, Paradox Grip, and Meeksterbrau Clothing. The way I balance my skateboarding career with being a dad is having the support from my lovely wife Melissa, she is also a skateboarder. She understands that skateboarding is my job and encourages me to make as many practice sessions as I can. Sometimes it’s hard to leave my family to go skate or film when I often have to commute an hour and a half away from home, because the baby is just one month old. I have to be more proactive in planning skate events, competitions, demos and tours to stay involved and coordinate with my wife’s schedule.
2. What does being a modern-day dad mean to you?
To me being open minded and flexible are very important in modern day parenting. I think being a modern day dad means to be a great role model for my child and other people as well. Just being in the present, enjoying the moment, playing outside as much as possible and spending family time together daily. Things are changing so rapidly it can be hard to keep up. I am excited to see how technology will advance in the next generation, but also think its very important that my daughter doesn’t get overtaken by social media and cell phones. I plan on taking her camping every summer, to the beach often and encouraging outdoor activities.
3.How did becoming a father change your life?
She changed my life by making me feel more complete than I have ever felt and giving me a stable foundation for my life. When she was born I knew exactly what I needed to do and it was to care for and love this child unconditionally. Besides being a professional skateboarder, I now have a new job as a stay at home dad.
4. Whats the greatest part about being a dad?
The greatest part is seeing her grow more every day. Every day she changes, like her ability to smile more on demand and laugh. It’s amazing to see her figuring out the world starting with us. Its fun to wonder what she will be like when she gets older and all the different activities she will be into and all the fun trips we will go on.
5. Can you share a funny story about being a father?
Well one night we woke up to crying and as Melissa was picking her up she puked all over her, so she handed her over to me and i put her down to clean and change her, she was being very fussy so I picked her up off the changing table to calm her and when I was doing that she projectile pooped all over me and It seriously felt like a ton of bricks hit me!
6. What advice can you give any new father out there?
Well I haven’t been a father for that long but I guess the best advice I can give to a new father is to not get discouraged by all the bad stories people tell you. Every baby is different just trust your instincts and be yourself don’t try to be someone you’re not it’s just going to be that much harder. Everything is so new to us and we are still figuring out the whole parenting thing, but every step is exciting and sometimes frightening but always rewarding. Having support from family and friends that are experienced parents is extremely helpful.
Thanks so much Demarcus, we appreciate you taking the time to talk to us and good luck with that new baby!
Get in touch with Demarcus here: http://instagram.com/wallybin