A force to be reckoned with in the music scene, co-owner of the pivotal music site NoEcho.net, and father (amongst other things), Carlos Ramirez helps define what a Modern Day Dad is. He’s been a part of many bands that are in my music collection and still is pumping out jams with some of punk/hardcore/powerviolence’s musical royalty, amongst which he fits right in. We had the pleasure of chatting with Carlos and are excited to share this feature with you. Meet Carlos!
1. Tell us about what you do, who you are, and how you balance your career with being a dad?
My name is Carlos Ramirez, and I’m the father of a girl named Estella who is turning 3 in March of 2015. We have a boy being born in May. I just turned 40 at the beginning of January. I work at a cable television network based in Los Angeles on the editorial and marketing side of things. I also co-own a music-related site, NoEcho.net.
I’ve been in and out bands since my teen years. Black Army Jacket, Lakota, and Hope Collapse are among the groups I’ve been a member of throughout the years. I’m currently fronting a band called Deny the Cross that also features Dave Witte (Municipal Waste), Dan Lactose (Spazz), and Ramon Salcido (Agens of Satan). The music sounds like Napalm Death and Infest hanging out at an Assuck show.
The band stuff is just a fun thing I get to do every now and then, so it doesn’t require much in terms of my schedule. Outside of my career, NoEcho.net is what takes up any time I don’t spend with my wife and daughter. I love writing about music, and I see it as a necessary outlet for me at this point in my life. My wife also works in television, and has a more demanding work and travel schedule than I do, but she blows my mind with the way she juggles everything.
2. What does being a modern-day dad mean to you?
I grew up with immigrant parents from Colombia and Ecuador. For them, it was all about having their kids become doctors or lawyers. They wanted us to not struggle the way they did, so I get that, but I found it stifling. I was never encouraged when it came to music or anything else I showed an interest in. They looked at that kind of stuff like a complete waste of time.
So, for me, I want to make sure I encourage my daughter and son to pursue anything their hearts desire. Even if it’s something I don’t personally understand or care for, I want them to know that I’m in their corner, no matter what.
3. How did becoming a father change your life?
It’s made me become more patient. The first few months were tough for me because I had very little to no patience. That came more naturally to my wife. It was a process for me, but I’m getting better as we go.
4. What’s the greatest part about being a dad?
I love seeing my daughter’s genuine wonder about everything. Every single day offers up something new for her to soak in. Being the natural cynic that I am, seeing her be so excited about the smallest things is an amazing thing. Another thing that comes to mind is how excited we are to see each other when I get home from work. The washes away any bullshit I had to deal with earlier in the day.
5. Can you share a funny story about being a father?
This happened recently. I have this Bluetooth speaker thing that I put in my daughter’s bedroom to play songs off my Spotify playlists. One day, my wife was out of town, so it was just my daughter and I at home. Anyway, I fired up a playlist I made filled with ‘80s R&B jams and we started having a 2-person dance party in her bedroom.
She started to get restless after about 30 minutes, so I stopped playing that playlist and switched to one that was all hardcore bands. We went from dancing to moshing around! She’s at the stage where she mimics everything, so I started showing her hardcore punk moves like the “The Lawnmower” and “The Windmill.” You know, like that Sick of it All video from back in the day [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9fvu951up_0]. She was so goddamn cute!
6. What advice can you give any new father out there?
The first few months can be brutal, with the sleep thing and all that. But it gets easier once your baby starts sleeping overnight, and gets into a routine with that. So, try and be patient. It gets easier.
Thanks so much Carlos! It was a pleasure!