Brian Fair needs no introduction as far as I am concerned. The energetic, dreadlocked singer of such bands as Shadow’s Fall, Overcast, Death Ray Vision and Downpour, has been known to push the limits of hardcore and metal with his thought provoking lyrics and unique, guttural delivery. Now a father, Brian has placed his attention on what he finds most important, his family. It was an honor to be able to talk to Brian, one of my person favorite vocalists of all time, and was just overwhelmed with how multidimensional he is. Brian superseded any expectations and opened up about what a dedicated husband, and loving father he is, while still maintaining his status as a force to be reckoned with in the heavy music scene.
1. Tell us about what you do, who you are, and how you balance your career with being a dad?
My name is Brian Fair and I sing for the metal and hardcore bands Shadows Fall, Overcast, Death Ray Vision and Downpour. To balance my career out with being a Dad, I have recently decided to stop full time touring and spend a lot more time at home. In today’s music business, it has become more difficult to generate constant income due to all of the illegal downloading and sharing, without staying on the road for most of the year. I just couldn’t be gone from my daughter for months at a time for 75% of the year. I realized how much I was missing when I watched my daughter crawl for the first time over skype from a hotel rood in Bulgaria. I just didn’t want to miss out on all of these milestones while traveling. I am continuing with music but have found another job at home to help supplement the income I made touring. Now it’s more short tours, festivals or long weekends of shows so I can spend more time at home helping my wife with the daily insanity of raising a two year old wrecking ball!
2. What does being a modern-day dad mean to you?
I guess it means that there is no stereotypical career, appearance or personality type that means you will be a good dad. You can come from any walk of life and as long as you give your child the love, respect and support they need and deserve than you can be a great dad. Tattoos and dreadlocks don’t have anything to do with my parenting style although the dreads are great to give my daughter to hold onto in the grocery store. Makes a great natural leash!
3.How did becoming a father change your life?
Becoming a dad has changed everything in my life. For a few decades on the road traveling around the world trying to be a rockstar, I really only had to worry about myself and my own needs and desires. It shifted when I got married and my wife’s needs and desires became just as important as mine and we found a way to balance both of our careers. Once our daughter was born, everything became focused on her needs and making sure she was taken care of and given every opportunity to have an amazing life. Our careers and everything else took a backseat to raising our little lady in the best way possible. It has made me become a more patient person and realized its all the little things that make this life so amazing. I used to always be moving at breakneck speeds and now I have slowed things down to really appreciate every day.
4. Whats the greatest part about being a dad?
All of it!! I love watching her learn new things and discover the world around her. I love the way she looks at me and my wife with pure love in her eyes. I love walking into the door and hearing her yell “DA DA!!” and running at me to give me a hug when I walk through the door. It all rules.
5. Can you share a funny story about being a father?
When Arabella was still an infant, I had her on the changing table getting ready to change her diaper. She unleashed a volcanic explosion of projectile poop that nearly took me out. At first, I was disgusted and nearly vomited as I dodged the fecal fastball she just threw at me. After I looked at where the poop stain ended on the floor, I felt a moment of pride very similar to Chevy Chase in “Vacation” after he launches the car off a ravine into the dessert and his son Rusty tells him “You must have jumped the car 60 feet dad.” “That’s nothing to be proud of Rusty…. 60 feet …” I had to measure the distance. She covered over 6 feet!! I was one proud papa of an adorable little lady with a behind like a cannon!!
6. What advice can you give any new father out there?
Enjoy every moment. The time flies by even faster than people tell you. Give your child guidance but also let them discover and experience things on their own. The may stumble and get frustrated but when they figure something out or conquer an obstacle on their own it really helps them develop and find their own way through life. Also, we let our little lady get her hands dirty! We have never been the type to hit everything with hand sanitizer or get her out of the mud and she has never even had a cold or the sniffles!
Thanks so much man! It was an absolute pleasure to get to chat with you, and I wish you all the best! Keep it metal!