One thing that being a modern day dad has taught me was that there are no rules and you learn as you go. There is no “right way” to do things, and each situation is completely unique to you. The biggest way I can share that wisdom, and pass on that example to my child is by being that example myself. After all, there comes a time where your child no longer listens to what you say and imitates what you do. If you’re going to speak about it, be about
In my home there are no gender roles. Dad cooks dinner many nights a week, mom pays some bills. Dad does some dishes, mom puts together some furniture. Some years mom has taken off from work entirely and dad brought home the cash. Other years dad has taken a brief hiatus from the workforce to help out mom and her business. I’ve been known to mow the lawn while my wife fills up the crock pot, i’ve shown my daughter how to bake cookies and my wife taught her how to make the perfect cupcake. We have had many tea parties and believe me, everyone was invited.
When it comes to my daughter talking about her hopes and dreams, nothing is off-limits. It’s no surprise that she wants to be both a singer and an artist. She is a highly creative girl and I will support her in those goals for as long as she has them. She has learned from both her mother and I that there are no rules to be followed. Blaze your own path, and make the focus of your life happiness.
The example in our home takes traditional gender roles and tosses them out the window. Being outnumbered by two girls and even if I wasn’t, my daughter sees me show my wife the upmost love and respect. Neither of us are a subservient slave to the other, we coexist peacefully in our home working together, filling any rolls needed at any time. I want my daughter to grow up demanding not only equality but respect from everyone she encounters. I don’t ever want her to look at any aspect of herself as a hindrance, and we encourage her to use her strengths throughout her life.
Gone are the days of the husband out of the home all day while the wife stays home tethered between the grocery store in the kitchen. Those outdated gender roles not only make me sick, but I hope that the disgusting notion that they are appropriate and expected disappears completely as well. This is not to say that traditional roles are unacceptable for those wanting to fill them, it is to say that they should not be expected, enforced, or have to be the norm.
Because of the way my wife and I work together as a team, and not two separate people, my daughter is able to see what working together can truly accomplished. We have a loving, and caring household based on respect for everyone that is a part of our home and family. Men and women are seen as equals, and my daughter will grow in a home that shows you can do anything you want no matter who you are.