“Focusing on your own garden”

I was having a conversation over coffee with my friend the other night about having children. We were talking about how our perspective before having kids drastically changed after actually becoming parents.

We both admitted to saying things like “when I have children, they would never act that way in public.” In restaurants when younger children would cry or scream I would roll my eyes and wonder why they didn’t have that child under control. How naïve I was.

I’m sure many of you can relate to the differences you feel now when seeing other parents in public with their kids. My friend joked that before, when he wanted to tell a parent to “get their kid under control” he now feels like he wants to ask them if he needs any help, if it weren’t for the fact that he was dealing with his own two screaming children at the same time.

Life is all about perspective, and I thought this conversation we shared was a funny reminder to all of us that we once were “armchair critics” too. Experience is a hell of a teacher and any advice people give you regarding on how to raise your children should be taken with a grain of salt, even my own.
We are all trying to make our way through the best we can, and only we know what is right for our children and families. Trust your judgement! Everyone has a different idea of what it means to be a great parent, and it’s important to spend less time judging others and more time focusing on our own garden.


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