One day our kids will leave our homes and never really return in the same way. Off to college, moving out, and on their own. One day they might be married with children and thinking to themselves, “you know what, Dad was right about everything.” This is why it’s so important to be a fine example for your kids. They watch and mimic, they are born from you and will always be a part of you. The saying that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree is usually pretty accurate, so I make a point to work on my “tree” pretty frequently.
I can’t expect my kids to work hard if I don’t show them what hard work looks like. I can’t expect them to be patient if I’m always flying off the handle. I can’t expect anything from them that I’m not willing to model myself.
Most of us have a clear idea what we’d like to see from our kids, but instead of talking, we have to BE. It’s much easier to become a father than to BE one.
So I make sure that I’m being the role model they need and adjust and re-adjust and adjust some more and note that my kids follow suit without me even having to ask.
The challenge is to find your best self, and work on it, making a better version of you every day. Think of what your family commandments would be and impress them on your kids.
Would you eat better? Exercise more? Would you be kinder and more patient in your home? Would you make it a priority to spend more time with your family? Would you show more compassion to those in need? Would you model a better relationship with your spouse for your kids?
The point is, make sure you’re there to be the example, in actions and when you talk to your kids…when you sit at home and when you go for walks, when you lie down and when you get up.
I can’t say this enough, if you want to raise a good kid, you have the be the finest example you can be and the rest is pretty easy.