Be the type of father who shows confidence, commitment, and strength, so your children will believe they can be confident, committed and strong too.
How often we forget that our children are watching our every move. When our kids are young they are a little more vocal about us being their heroes, but that doesn’t stop as they age either. It can be hard sometimes to take a step back and look at the bigger picture, but the responsibility for being a role model lays on our shoulders from the minute our children are born.
This is not to say that we have to be perfect as parents, but just as our successes can define us, how we react when things don’t go our way is almost just as important. How we remain confident despite setbacks, committed when things get tough, and strong in the face of our struggles.
It seems like this world is designed to leave people in a constant state of worry, panic, and frustration. This is a trait that gets passed down in families. I notice my child from time to time coming to me with little inconsequential worries before bedtime, waiting to see how I will react. If I indulge her nonsensical fears, she wallows in the worry and won’t go to bed for hours. If I assure her that she has nothing to worry about, she shrugs her shoulders and goes back to bed. This is a small scale example of how our reactions and off our example directly influences our children.
By being a confident, committed, and strong parent, even when we don’t feel like it, especially when we don’t feel like it, we are setting the example for our children to follow in our footsteps in a way that will lead to a happier, healthier, and more fulfilling life as adults.