I remember someone once asked me what I’d like to see come from these posts and my answer was simple… “Just to show that being a good dad is cool.” Cooler than hitting the road, cooler than the bottle, cooler than bar brawls or dope, or the nightlife.
I’ll tell you from experience, I’d trade a million of those late nights out for more early nights in with my family.
The narrative that fathers are bumbling fools at best and absent and irresponsible at their worst has been prevalent for decades, but I guess like with any generalization, that’s because there’s some truth to it for some people. Maybe they didn’t think being a dad was cool…maybe they didn’t think about it at all.
The levity of being a dad wasn’t on their mind. The responsibility of being a parent…it didn’t take precedence. Being a dad is an awesome honor to me. Though I’m not looking for a pat on the back, I just want to right the wrongs, and give my kids the best of me, not what’s left of me and share that example with anyone who will listen.
It’s not just going through the motions. It’s not just something I do and hope everything turns out alright, it’s a chance at redemption, one that requires commitment and dedication, one that requires hard work, and leaving your ego at the door. One that requires being second or third or last in line, but if that’s the price you pay, it’s worth it to be called Dad.